Real questions about relationships, intimacy and sexuality — without shame, labels or quick fixes.
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His desire has not disappeared, but it is no longer directed towards his wife. Petra responds on motherhood, sexuality and responsibility for infidelity.
Read Petra's answerDoes the excitement of an affair mean your marriage is over? Petra on responsibility for infidelity and what you are really looking for in a relationship.
Read Petra's answerYour partner does not want an open relationship but fears losing you. Petra explains why consent without free desire is not a sound basis for a relationship.
Read Petra's answerPetra answers an anonymous question about premature ejaculation, performance pressure, confidence and talking with a partner.
Read Petra's answerShe has faked orgasms for years and now wants to tell her partner the truth. Petra explains how to begin the conversation and explore what feels good together.
Read Petra's answerYou can love your partner and no longer want sex that you agree to only to keep the peace. Petra answers how to begin changing that dynamic.
Read Petra's answerCentimetres may attract attention, but skill, confidence and presence make the difference. Petra answers whether penis size is decisive for a woman's pleasure.
Read Petra's answerFor now, you can read Petra's answers to previously published and anonymised questions.
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