Relationships
Compromise in marriage: when agreement means giving up part of yourself
When does compromise support a relationship, and when does it hide unspoken needs? Petra explores agreement, boundaries and intimacy in marriage.
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Articles for moments when finding the words is not simple — for relationships, intimacy, sex, insecurity or what others expect of you.
You do not need to have a ready answer, always know what you want or pretend to feel confident when you do not. Sometimes the hardest part is simply admitting to yourself that something is confusing, painful or important to you.
Here you will find articles about relationships, sex, intimacy and questions that are not always easy to say out loud. No proving yourself and no lessons about what kind of man you are supposed to be.
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Articles for questions you may have been carrying for some time
Intimacy and sex
Men, intimacy does not happen by itself
When responsibilities and tiredness take over the day, intimacy should not become another item on the list. Petra writes about attention, initiative and making room for connection without pressure on the outcome.
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Intimacy and sex
Men, experience is not measured by the number of partners
The number of partners is not proof of sexual experience. Experience grows through attention, conversation, listening and a willingness to learn what works with the person in front of you.
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Questions that are not always easy to say out loud
Reader’s letter
I love my wife, but since she became a mother I no longer desire her
Petra answersHis desire has not disappeared, but it is no longer directed towards his wife. Petra responds on motherhood, sexuality and responsibility for infidelity.
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An affair made me feel alive. Does it mean my marriage is over? Petra answers
Petra answersDoes the excitement of an affair mean your marriage is over? Petra on responsibility for infidelity and what you are really looking for in a relationship.
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Premature ejaculation: confidence and closeness with your partner
Petra answersPetra answers an anonymous question about premature ejaculation, performance pressure, confidence and talking with a partner.
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How do I tell my partner I have been faking orgasms?
Petra answersShe has faked orgasms for years and now wants to tell her partner the truth. Petra explains how to begin the conversation and explore what feels good together.
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Does size matter for good sex?
Petra answersCentimetres may attract attention, but skill, confidence and presence make the difference. Petra answers whether penis size is decisive for a woman's pleasure.
Read Petra's answerWhen you need a conversation without pretending
In an individual conversation, you do not need to prove anything or know in advance what the problem is. We can begin with the question that keeps returning.